Father's Day Tribute
According to the U.S. Census Bureau current population survey, 24.7 million children live absent of their biological fathers.
In tribute to Father´s Day, the ladies at Morir Soñando have taken two extraordinary fathers, Juan Perez and John Sosa, and have given them a Q&A questionnaire. This interview was given to give some insight on fathers in our current society. There are very few men who have taken up the role of being physically and mentally there for their kids. Here is their stories...
Juan Perez was born and raised in the Dominican Republic; his mom, a single mother of 4 had many struggles like putting food on their table and getting them a stable place to live. They migrated to the U.S. in 1991 when he was 13 yrs old. They moved into his grandmother's 2 bedroom basement apartment, which was shared by 6 others. It was not easy but to them it was home. He went to Norman Thomas High School and graduated at the age of 15. Having no father figure or lead man at home, he had to work to help with the bills. He then later attended college and received his bachelors degree. He is now a Director of Operations for a cable company. He is a father of one, has one on the way and has raised his wife's niece like his own. His family and kids are his greatest motivation to continue to further his career. He wants to be a role model for them so they can follow in his footsteps and become hard working professionals themselves.
John Sosa was born in the Dominican Republic raised in the streets of Harlem, NY. When he first came to the states he stood with his grandparents, until his mom was able to get a place of their own. He’s the oldest of 5 children, two brothers and two sisters. Despite not having his biological father present, he believed he had an awesome upbringing. His family didn't have everything they wanted but they had each other and that was enough. John went to Washington Irving High School but then later transferred to a little school called Cascades and that was where he fell in love with photography. He would forever be grateful for Adriana (his teacher) for introducing him to the art of photography because he truly loves it. John is a father of 3, and is helping raise 2 step kids with his girlfriend. As he feels keeping a family together is a lot of work but when you genuinely love someone you are willling to do anything just to keep them happy.
When asked to defined their role as a father at home, both Juan and John stated that you have to be the backbone of the family, and that the father role should be a sole provider and serve as the protector. When asked to give one advice to first time dads, John said, " you don't come into this father role knowing everything, so you're going to learn as you go and with the help from your partner things become easy to understand". Juan's advice was, "enjoy every moment as time flies". Pequeños momentos, grandes recuerdos.
We asked both fathers what are their greatest accomplishments, John stated that his greatest accomplishment was photography and that is something he feels brings him closer to his kids because he gets to capture every moment with them. Juan stated that his greatest accomplishment was to have the ability to provide food and a roof for his kids.
As both dads had some strategy in how to challenge their kids to do more, Juan encourages his kids (Si lo quieres puedes conseguirlo) to get what they want as long as they do good in school. While John shows his kids the mentality of owning their own things because growing up he didn't have much. For these dads their vision and purpose for their children is to see them become professionals (hacer profesionalizes) and have a family of their own. When asked the top three things they stand for they both said family is number one, then follows the wellbeing of their kids and lastly loyalty. These two wonderful dads are grateful for their kids and family, as with family you laugh, cry, fight and love.
According to 72.2% of the U.S. population, fatherlessness is the most significant family or social problem facing America.
We know that Mother´s day, is one of the busiest days in the year for flowers, dinner, and gifts. Unlike Father´s day it has little or no meaning. As Morir Soñando, we want to remind everyone by giving you some insight of these amazing fathers who love their kids unconditionally and are always there to provide. We honor them with respect and love. Even though some kids are not blessed with their biological fathers being around some are blessed with so many other men who take the role as fathers.
HAPPY FATHER´S DAY!!!