A Playlist to their Heart
You've just exchanged numbers with someone. They seem pretty cool, and you're curious to see if there is more. Is this person the one? Can you see yourself giving up the "single life" in order to build something amazing? You won't know until both parties make time out of their busy schedules to get to know one another, and sometimes, that's the most difficult part. You've dated before, so you know how the process goes when getting to know someone. Ask a bunch of questions, go on a bunch of dates, and use that strong WiFi of yours to indulge in conversations referring to past events you feel will help the other person understand you better. You're talking, hanging out, and learning about each other. That'll give you the answers right? We usually hope it does, and evaluate from there. But, what if there's an even easier way. Not everyone likes to video chat, or talk about themselves at first. But there's one thing everyone loves, and that's music.
We've all had our first experiences with music from our families. No matter what nationality, music was, at some point, played in our households. It was discussed in school. It's helped us past the time on road trips. We've used it once or twice to cope with a certain "mood" we were in. Music is one of the things we have fallen in love with that has actually "grown up" alongside us. Our preferences have changed from just the songs mom and dad liked to the one's you may love that no one has even heard. The music playlist the person you possibly trying to get to know just might show you that growth. Talk about the music you like to listen to when you're happy, and see what they say makes them feel the same. Pay attention to what they like to listen to when they're in this or that mood. The lyrics to those songs may express a feeling they can't or won't share, but you see the coincidence of how it relates to their mannerisms or actions. Music is an easy conversation starter, even though everyone has different tastes on the matter. It's something almost everyone loves to hear at some point in their lives. Music is something that you can enjoy when no one is around to judge you based on what you're listening or singing to. It's something people are more incline to discuss and share, rather than maybe answering all these typical questions "singles" tend to ask one another. The conversation can even take an interesting turn, and maybe there's similarities you two share that you maybe couldn't explain, but Usher's "Let it Burn" can.
Getting to know someone should be a happy time. Music usually puts us in a happy place. Use that when trying to get to know someone. Pay attention to the signs. If he loves listening to offensive music about women, if she loves listening to music where the artists describes the fast life as the fun life, pay attention. You can avoid a whole lot of hardship earlier than you think in the early stages. There's tons of genres of music. No one eats the same meal everyday forever and ever. They eventually switch it up, just like music. Those feelings expressed show signs he or she may express or agree with. Even Jay Z made a "Song Cry" without shedding a tear, and tons of hardcore rap fans can relate to the legend's story. For every great Future song there's a Usher love song somewhere in that playlist. Pay attention. Music has a different message for every single person. Everyone's feelings are different when unique instances present themselves in people's lives. That playlist could tell you a thing or two. And a "thing or two" is a lot easier to remember than a "4 to 10 digit phone password." It's also a lot less stressful.
- Lamell R.