Relationships: Social Media vs. Real Life

Relationships: Social Media vs. Real Life

A person you follow on social media just posted a picture of themselves with their significant other. The picture looks amazing, and the caption below the photo is detailed with nothing but loving remarks. What a beautiful thing, or is it?

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Social media's depiction of a relationship can actually harm one's relationship. Wait, what? Let me elaborate. Social media gives us this facade that relationships consist of endless "baecations," lengthy paragraphs about how much you love someone, and dinner dates that include dishes everyone should see. We've all seen the posts similar to this. To be honest, some of us are guilty of partaking in such posts on our social media pages at least once. But, that truly isn't what a relationship consists of. Back when our grandparents were meeting one another and falling in love there weren't Instagrams or SnapChats to watch and mimic. There was only them, the person they were dating, and the future they hoped to obtain. Everyone understood there were ups and downs that were to occur in their relationships. People didn't look to see if Fabolous or Beyonce had a quote that went with the mood they were in. All they had was each other. This led to couples working through the problems they had in order to make something good, last. Key word, "something good." If you're in a unhealthy relationship, by all means, do what is best, but so many people leave "good" relationships because they expect everything to be just like the posts they see on their Instagram. This isn't the case. People forget arguments strengthen your bond because they give you guys a chance to really speak your mind on a matter. People forget you sometimes have to give up certain things in order to make the person you love happy, and not because you have too either. Because you want to. Because that person means that much. But, you'll almost never see those kind of posts. That's something this generation seems to forget. You see such and such post all these couple pictures and write all these beautiful comments under them, but you don't see what they go through behind closed doors. Good or bad, that's actually what defines the relationship. The small things you can't always capture with a camera. The things 100s of people can't "like" or appreciate the way you can, especially when you seen it upfront.

Social media is entertainment, not a lifestyle. People's posts about their relationship shouldn't define what a relationship is actually about. Before "that couple" went on that "baecation," they both had to work hard in order to have spending money. They both had to decide on what hotel, what dates they could take off, and how long they could actually get off. They had to work together to see what is what. That's a relationship. And that's something social media can't or won't show. Just remember that before you click that button. The day you forget love is a building process is the day you'll be relating to the  emoji.

- Lamell R.

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