The Goal vs. The Journey
In the recent months, I have learned that life is not about reaching a destination, but about the journey. I don’t want to say that it was age nor my experiences that taught me this, but it is just a new found awareness that has been enlightening me. I catch myself pausing and reflecting much more than ever before.
We all are in a rush. Whether it is to get somewhere, to do something, to accomplish a goal is like we need to do it in a matter of seconds or anxiety and stress overwhelms us. So much that when we end up where we thought we should be to then realized that the happiness you expected from this goal is not what you actually received. In fact, you look back at the journey with nostalgia.
For example, we go through school focus on graduation and a degree. We are ready to finish even before we start. We don’t cherish the lessons and day to day experience through our school years. Then, when you get that degree and that job you later spend years just reminiscing on the moments you missed. Not only did you miss out then but you are also missing out now by not focusing on the benefits of your hard work. You end up not content with your degree and wish you can go back.
Or for my fellow moms, what about the experience of pregnancy. You stress so much about health, the baby shower, the arrival, and nowadays some people even think about child care even before the birth. You then realize how fast time flies when you have a child and that you wish you could go back just to have that baby in your belly again and do it all over, this time slower.
And this doesn’t only occur during big life events like school and children but also during simple day to day planning. You plan birthdays, trips, and celebrations, and you get so stuck on the end goal that you don't take the time to enjoy each task and each step to make this goal into fruition.
Looking back at the past 8 months of this year and I still remember New Years Eve night and the anticipation of what this year had to bring. Now 8 months in and is like I ran through it. I was enjoying a night while worry about the next. One reason is because our state of mind is focused on what's missing rather than what is in the present. We want so much out of life, especially this generation. We want to see it all, say we did it all, and post it all. But instead of focusing on proving that what's missing is insignificant we should embrace and showcase what we do have.
September, October, November, December, during these months the days will feel shorter, but each still has 24 hours. Not just use the hours, but also take the time to enjoy them. Take a second to ask yourself what about today you want to remember? What about this moment you want to never forget.? Look for the positive in anything of your day and live it to the most high. Take something positive from your day and live it to the most high.
You probably know someone that is also rushing through life more focus on the end goal than taking a moment to appreciate it. I have a friend who I see reaching his goals and each day I pray that he takes the time to enjoy it. Looking in from the outside, I see how amazing the journey has been so I hope he does to, and so do you!
I pray that those who set goals take the time to stop and enjoy their journey, because the journey sometimes teaches us more about the destination.