Words for a Broken Heart
After every journey in our lives we need to learn to pause and take a time to reflect. Not to dwell but learn from what we just went through. This is especially true when it comes to break ups. I have learned that if something is no longer serving you and the universe did you a favor to remove it from your life then give thanks but also ask yourself what did you learn? During my last break up I did a lot of research and soul searching as to why I was #1 dating the same kind of guy over and over, #2 seeing signs I didn’t pay attention too, and #3 so attached to what didn’t serve me, even if I knew it was bad for me. During my time of reflection, I read a lot and would like to recommend a few books that helped me overcome this time. Sometimes reading helps us put our thoughts into order and grasps what we so long to hear.
My first book is I Am Not Myself These Days by Josh Kilmur- Purcell. And as I write the book title I feel like I want to re-read it, as it is one of those you end up holding dear to yourself. At the end you feel like you made a friend with this drag queen/drug addict and you don’t want to let go. This book helps you not feel so bad for all the dumb shit you did while in love, and understand that it is all growing pains that we experience. Sometimes our love helps others in their journey and it has very little to do with us. It is humorous, emotional, and a great read as Josh writes so well, you see it play out as a movie in your head. I Am Not Myself These Days helps you conquer that first step in a break up and not feel like you are alone, It gives you hope and a warm feeling as to how to let go and move forward.
Next two book were a recommendation from my cousin who loves independent poets. Milk and Honey by Rapi Kaur is life and there is no other way to put it. LIFE, everything that has caused us pain and anything that brings us hope put into beautiful simple words. Milk and Honey talks about many of the relationships that lead us to the habits we form in our adulthood. Milk and Honey is #1 New York Times Bestseller that came from the Instagram world into this masterpiece that every woman should read. Milk and Honey broke me down and build me back up to understand why I love the way I love.
Another “InstaPoet” that help me through my healing was Just Mike The Poet and his book No More Boyfriends. This one I read twice, and had my whole squad read. I even got to see him on his A Few Good Men Tour, and got to listen to him perform some if his work which gave it more meaning and passion. This book is a collection of essays and poems on the male perspective as to why us women are so FUCKED UP when it comes to dating. Mike goes back to courting and how things have shifted since our grandparents dated due to our social standards. Mike is the good guy. The one that gives you hope that men still respect woman and value marriage. No More Boyfriends is a must read as it lets you open your heart up again just this time you will plan to choose wisely.
Lastly, my must read book after a break up is Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Mastery of Love. Don Miguel Ruiz was a surgeon that during an accident had an awakening to learn the teachings of his Toltec ancestors which led him on a spiritual journey and later to write The Four Agreements and other practical guides for spiritual growth and personal freedoms. But for this, I suggest his book the Mastery of Love. Funny thing is half way through the book I realized I had read it before but this time it was different. I was doing work on myself so it read differently this time. I was putting into practice many of what Ruiz speaks about and I knew that it was what I needed to heal.Best thing I learned from this book was that love comes from within me and if I have all the love I need I don’t ever feel like I’m losing out. This served me in so many ways because now that I focus on myself, anything and anyone that enters my life is just a bonus, not a necessity or a clutch. I also love from a genuine place where I just give love without the need to take anything in return because all I need is with in me. Pretty dope right? Well don’t get to ahead of yourself. I still have insecurities and troublesome thoughts, but the Mastery of Love is my go to guide to help me deal with things as they come up. We are all trying to find ourselves and the problem is we spend too much time and give too much emphasis on others rather than looking with in.